The dating world is a mean world. When it comes to caring for the heart, people do the unthinkable sometimes.

Good partners can be hard come by and sometimes the person with all the qualities that you like also happens to be your friend’s ex. So you are considering going ahead and claiming the prize. I’ll tell you what. Don’t do it.

Although there are a gazillion reasons why, here are the top 11 reasons why you should avoid dating your friend’s ex:

1. It is downright weird.

It should bother you that your friend once loved this person. It should bother you that your friend was once lying naked on the very same bed with this person. Those are reasons enough to keep off. The plain and simple fact is that you will forever be haunted by thoughts of what your friend used to do with this person.

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2. That ex might have a hidden agenda.

If you are wise, you should be careful about someone who wants to date you shortly after their relationship with your friend ends. They might just be using you as an object for revenge.


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3. You will still be insecure.

Insecurity will always be in you like corruption in a government ministry. You will always compare yourself to your friend and wonder if this person still loves your friend. You will always have to deal with the burden of living up to your friend and matching the things they used to do. Unfortunately, the bar that they set, might be too high for you to ever reach.

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4. It will definitely damage your reputation.

People will be talking. “Huyo ndio ule mtu alicheza beshte yake.” Oh yeah. People will even accuse you of stealing the ex from your friend. Other people will simply feel that what you did wasn’t cool.This includes friends that you share. Your name will basically be dragged through the mud.

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5. You’ll never be able to fully trust your friend’s ex.

If this person is okay with dating two friends, what makes you think that they won’t mind doing it again with one of your other friends? And really, can you trust that? Probably not.

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6. You might end up losing both.

When you dive into a romantic relationship with a friend’s ex, you have to keep in mind that there is a possibility of the relationship ending eventually. The saddest part about it all is that you will have to mourn not just the loss of your lover, but of your friend as well.

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7. They might actually end up back together.

If they truly loved each other, they might actually end up together, like many exes do. And you will remain there looking like the ruler of all losers in this world.


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8. Your friend will care even if they say they don’t.

Don’t believe your friend when they say they don’t mind you dating their ex. They mind, in some way. You will just notice how this friend will start avoiding you or getting mad at you all the time.



9. Picking sides.

By now you have realized that you can’t have both. Picking sides between two people is never cool. Plus you will also be forcing friends to pick sides.

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10. You wouldn’t like it if someone did it to you.

How would you feel if one of your besties started dating your ex? You would probably feel very hurt and betrayed. You would probably start wondering if they always felt this way about each other. You might start worrying that things were going on behind your back when you were dating him. You might start to question everyone around you. It doesn’t feel good, and you wouldn’t want someone to make you feel this way, so… you know what they say. As per the bible, treat others how you want to be treated.


11. You are better than this.

Take a few minutes to think and you will realize you are better than this.  There are plenty of fish in this sea and your friend’s ex isn’t one of them. Respect the bro code or girl code.




Learned a thing or two?

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